Book Review - Which in no way indicates I am unhappy in my marriage.

I saw this book on the review list. I am currently quite happy with my coupling fully intend to stay that way (happy and coupled). I thought this book might be interesting. All I have been looking at lately is cookbooks. And as awesome as those cookbooks are, cooking is not my biggest interest.

I was hoping for this book to have some good advice on how to end or change a relationship without ending up not wanting to be on the same planet as the other person. Even if I personally have no intention of being uncoupled, friends might or maybe it could apply to non married people.

Overall I think this book was ok. It is divided into two sections. The first: A Better way to break up was completely boring. It seemed more to praise the book for being awesome that give any helpful advice. The second: The 5 steps of conscious uncoupling was a lot better.

A lot of the things the book said were common sense stuff, but I liked that it had questions for each section to help you start thinking through things. If I were to summarize the method it would be take time to think about things, responsibility for you parts (i.e. don't blame only the other person), and don't be intentionally mean. The book did this explaining a lot better, but that's why it's a book.

Two things I didn't like about the book.

1. It seemed to be written directly to women. While the advice isn't gender specific there were little comments along the way would make it less approachable to a man. One bit of advice was to be kind to yourself, and call yourself sweetheart and honey. I can't see myself doing this let alone some guy in the middle of a breakup...

2. There were quite a few unnecessary Christian references. I was raised Christian, but I don't practice it anymore. I consider myself more neutral on the topic. But there are people who are very much not Christian and people who are other religions. This book isn't religious. It doesn't belong in the Christian self help or anything. I think the author is Christian and she is writing from that perspective. I think it would have been better to use different examples or be more inclusive of other belief systems.